A Beginner’s Guide to Tantric Connection through Tantric Love-making
The term tantric sex is often misunderstood. In Tantra, love-making is used to bring together two loving partners in a union of mind, body and soul.
What is tantric love making
One essential element of Tantra love making is taking time. In tantra, love-making is done without ego, with each partner learning to accept and receive. The methods learned and used in Tantric sex provide sensations and sexual pleasure that are far more intense and complex than just a simple orgasm at genital level. In Tantric sex, the orgasm is simply a by-product of the connectedness we feel with our partner and can span throughout the entire body.
Creating the Sacred Space for Tantric Love Making
To practice tantric love-making you should begin by creating an environment that is free from distractions, safe from interruptions, calm, quiet and peaceful. This sacred space should be free of clutter, tranquil, warm, and relaxing. Playing soft music, lighting candles, burning incense or essential oils and being comfortable are all especially important in creating a Tantric environment.
Once you are in your prepared sacred space, sit on the bed, face each other, look into each other’s eyes, and simply breathe. You need to connect with each other’s rhythm. Breathe in and out purposefully, paying attention to your lover’s breathing rhythm. As you continue to breathe together, you will become closer spiritually, more relaxed, and more in tune with each other. The more attuned you are, the more aware and connected you will become.
Tantric sex is not a race to the finish. For many couples love-making ends up feeling like a race to the finish post, with orgasm and ejaculation being the ultimate goal. Tantric sex however, is slow and purposeful. The idea is to not rush, to stay present and stay focused.
Harnessing the Senses in Tantric Love Making
Tantric love making involves harnessing all the sensory gateways, incorporating touch, taste, smell, sound, and sight. Caressing, stroking, honouring the yoni, eye gazing, whispering , touching and kissing are all great ways of heightening connection . You can take turns with a slow, seductive massage or simply sit and touch each other slowly. In tantra the focus of a lover’s body is not simply on the genitalia, it is on the whole of the body: ears, nose, neck, stomach, thighs, legs, chest, feet, etc. The goal is to become familiar, relaxed, and aroused by the whole body and for your partner’s entire body to become awakened. While you may wish to include a Lingam and Yoni massage as part of your lovemaking the central focus is not solely on the yoni or lingam.
There is no rush for penetration in Tantra. When you begin the actual sexual intercourse stage, it is important for the man to hold back ejaculation when he feels his orgasm impending. He should stop, breathe and then continue to pleasure his partner and himself. This not only builds a tremendous level of sexual energy, but it also develops self-control, heightens the emotional connection, and makes the final release more intense. As Tantric sex involves a total connection, as you are preparing to release your sexual tension, make sure to look deeply into your lover’s eyes, feel their breathing, and communicate your feelings. This is why tantric lovemaking often involves partners chests and hands touching.. When a couple is connected in this way, the orgasm that comes will be intense and will weave the couple together in close unity.
Preparation and Learning for Tantric Love Making
To learn Tantric Love making you need to take part in Healing Through Love, Intimacy and Sacred Sexuality (Module 3)
Before embarking on Tantric Lovemaking, it’s important to learn how to release negative emotions and trauma embedded in Yoni and Lingam taking part in Advance Tantric Massage training (Module 1b/2) on Yoni, Lingam and Male prostate.
It also important to Learn the Emotional Detox Basic Tantric – Tao bodywork training (Module 1a) to release negative stagnant emotions from the body due to past trauma, prior to Yoni – Lingam massage training
Tantric Love making is not a sexual activity but a deep spiritual, meditative activity where you could reach your highest potential and be in an ecstatic state. Features and Benefits of Tantric Love making.
To embark on Tantric Love making, a man needs to raise his consciousness, be able to separate orgasm and ejaculation and become a multi orgasmic man. A woman needs to raise her Shakti (Sexual energy), be able to orgasm and ejaculate and become multi orgasmic. Tantric Love making is a Journey not a destination.