Women hold great potential for bliss; they can feel pleasure in any part of their body once they are free and clear from emotional blockages and can learn to focus on relaxing, receiving, and surrendering.
Many women find it easier to give than to receive. The old adage its better to give than to receive isn’t always true and whilst no one wants to be selfish in the bedroom not being able to receive can also stop you from being able to deeply connect, receive the gift of caring, pleasure and connection.
You may find it difficult to receive for a number of reasons that may include:
Defence Against Intimacy
Receiving creates connection. So whether this is in daily life or in the bedroom being a giver not a receiver can be a way of protecting yourself from the risk of intimacy; its an excellent way to deal with the fear of getting hurt and intimacy, but it’s also a good way of depriving ourselves of precious moments of connection.
Letting Go of Control
When we give, we’re in control. So some people find it much easier to offer a kind word or buy someone a gift than allow themselves to surrender to the good feeling of receiving a gift. Receiving invites us to welcome a vulnerable part of ourselves and for many people this can feel dangerous and awkward.
During love making and sexual intimacy it can be difficult for a woman to receive as she may not feel comfortable surrendering and being vulnerable.
We may harbour negative beliefs such as it is selfish to receive. Social or religious conditions may have taught us that we are being selfish if we receive and so we learn to be self-effacing and as a result of this conditioning we may feel a sense of shame when receiving.
Trapped Negative Emotions
If negative emotions become trapped within our bodies, we my find it difficult to let go and receive pleasure. Shame, guilt, fear are all emotions that may be held on to deep within the cellular memory of the body and can prevent us being able to be present in the moment and receive.
If you are experiencing difficulty receiving, then you may want to consider having a yoni massage. The intention of the yoni massage is to:
- Awaken you to the possibilities of pleasure inherent in a relaxed and focused exploration.
- To de-armour the walls of the vagina, allowing it to become more responsive, soft, and receptive to pleasure and love-making. Women store their emotion and past negative events in the walls of the yoni, G spot and in the cervix. Old past negative events when audible or physical are all stored within the yoni this can result in loss of sensation, [numbness] and lack of desire for sex.
The purpose of the yoni massage is healing but orgasm can sometimes happen as a result, though it is not the focus of the treatment. The focus of an authentic, healing yoni massage treatment is the release of stagnant, negative emotions that in turn helps you to reconnect with your feminine energy and your sensual body. This allows you to feel bliss again and to be able to learn to receive as well as give.
A yoni massage can help a woman to release trapped, obstinate emotions, transform numb areas into pleasure points, connect with themselves, and practice surrendering to pleasure, allowing a woman to realise her full potential.
Mal Weeraratne, the founder of Tantric Journey School of Healing & Awakening offers treatments for women which include a yoni massage.
If you are interested in finding out more about Tantric Journey, please visit the website here.
Also book one of Mal’s Talks in London or attend an Online Masterclass if you would like to learn more.