When you first meet someone and a romance begins to blossom there is nothing quite like the rush of excitement that fills your heart, body and mind. Indeed, the first flush of romance can be exhilarating and intoxicating.
At the beginning of a relationship you may be filled with excitement and anticipation as you contemplate your life with that someone special.
Before settling down and getting into the realms of domestic practicalities, it is usual for couples have many dreams for their future together. New couples might make many plans for money savings, travelling, children, and even their career.
It is normal at the start of a long term relationship to have many expectations and much excitement for your upcoming life with that special someone. Sadly, life often gets in the way and as family and work commitments change the excitement and dreams fade. Suddenly, it is deemed as not easy to accomplish dreams and instead compromise with situations that are ‘sensible’ or ‘necessary’, but sometimes this can be difficult to bear and resentment or discontentment can build as the flame of passion in the relationship also dims.
Here are 6 ways to revive that passionate flame in your relationship
These tips are pretty straight forward and whilst you may not think of them as being Tantric you must understand that the Tantric approach to relationship focuses on connection and increasing intimacy.
- It’s the small things that count – it’s not the glittering cruises, diamonds and the celebrity lifestyle that make a relationship work but the small things that forge and build a connection.
- Cuddle in the morning
You may associate cuddling up with going to bed at night, but cuddling in the morning will keep you feeling close to each other all day and allow you five minutes to just connect.
- Schedule time for being together
This is a simple thing, but in an age of busy lifestyles it is essential that you make time for you and your partner to spend quality time together. It is easy to class time spent in the same room or house as time spent together, but this isn’t the case. Quality time is time that you set aside jut for each other- no screens or technology, just to be together.
- Check in with each other – spend five minutes every day telling each other what you enjoyed about the time you have spent together. This is really important as it moves your relationship into the positive and makes you focus on what you love rather than honing in on the negatives.
- Go to bed together
This means just going to bed, if you happen to end up making love so be it, but what I am talking about is actually heading up to bed together and ending the day snuggled up. It’s a great opportunity to spend some time together and snuggle up and talk at a time when the house is quiet and the demands of the day are over.
- Pursue your own interests
It’s really important that you don’t get lost. Yes, you are part of a couple, but you are also an individual and you are the individual that your partner fell in love with so don’t stop being you. Having interests outside those you share with your partner makes you more interesting to your partner and everyone else. It also helps to build your own individual confidence and self esteem, making you more secure in yourself and your relationship. A little “me time” allows both of you to grow as individuals and reduces the pressure on each of you to fill the other’s every need, after all each one of us is responsible for our own happiness.
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